The Doctor is IN

Keen Observations on Life … Whether You Need Them or Not

A moment of silence, and peace, for my cousin


I got the call last night, around 11:15. My cousin was killed in a roadside IED in Afghanistan. Thirty days before she was to come home, on one of her last missions … two weeks before she was to turn 30. On the other side of the world, in a tumultuous nation filled with strangers who have no idea who she is. Her two young children hoped that the fallen soldier was another woman who just looked like their mom.

NBC News acknowledged her passing, such as it is. Yet the heart-wrenching anguish her mother shared with me last night, the choking urgency I have to grab my fifteen year old and squeeze him hard—so I could re-absorb him into the safety of my body and my soul—is overwhelming.

So I offer a moment of silence,  for my cousin. I pray that her mother and father, and her two children, might find a moment of peace and grace, so they can face the sadness and duties that will face them in the days and weeks and months and years to come.

For you shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace:
the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing,
and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.

Isaiah 55:12


Author: Dolly R. Sickles

Writer, mother, wife, adventurer, agent of change, advocate, ally, volunteer, instructor ... I'm never bored. I write contemporary romance and romantic suspense under the name Becky Moore, and children’s literature under the name Dolly Dozier. You can also check me out at MacMillan Publishing’s Heroes & Heartbreakers, where I’m a romance blogger. During the fall and spring, you can find me in the classroom teaching other folks how to follow their dreams or how to fund their community outreach at Wake Technical Community College, and Central Carolina Community College. During the summer and at random times during the year, I'm out adventuring with my family.

6 thoughts on “A moment of silence, and peace, for my cousin

  1. I know I’m coming here late, but I just followed the link from your Heroes and Heartbreakers review of my first book. I wanted to express how sorry my husband (a 21 year USAF vet) and I are for your family’s loss. I like to think of myself as a writer, but I don’t even know what to say, except that this moved me to tears.

    • Thanks for the kind words and sentiment, Kara. I can say the same about your book. I thank you and your husband for the 21 years of service. My uncle is retired USAF, so I think between my dad, my uncle and my cousins, our family has represented each branch. My public service has been with NGO and non-profit agencies, but the will to serve is just as strong. I hope ‘The Longest Night’ is a huge success; I look forward to your next book!

  2. Pingback: Ever read a review that made you cry? | Kara Braden: Author, Fangirl, Geek.

  3. oh, Dolly, this breaks my heart. Peace to you and your family.

  4. What a wonderful tribute. I am so very proud of you and hold you close to my heart always.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.