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World AIDS Day turns 35

Today marks the 35th anniversary of World AIDS Day. It’s difficult to think of it as a cause for celebration because for nearly half a century, there is still no cure. Instead, I like to think of December 1 as a day to reflect on the millions of lives lost, the gains we’ve made battling the disease, and the hope we have for the future. 

In June 1981, the first cases of the illness now known as acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) were reported in Los Angeles, but it wasn’t until 1988 that the world came together to show strength and solidarity against HIV disease with World AIDS Day. Who could’ve predicted the endemic nature of the disease at the time, right? Today, HIV/AIDS remains one of the world’s most significant public health challenges.

According to NCDHHS, 36,581 people over the age of 13 and older in NC are living with HIV disease. Here are the highlights from the most recent epidemiology report (2022 North Carolina HIV Surveillance Report, October 2023).
In 2022:

  • 1,366 people were newly diagnosed with HIV disease;
  • 623 individuals were diagnosed with Stage 3 HIV (AIDS) – an increase of 112 over the last five years;
  • 2 perinatal mother-to-child HIV transmissions were documented;
  • People aged 20 to 34 had the highest rate of new transmission (38.5 per 100,000);
  • The highest rate of newly diagnosed HIV infection was among adult/adolescent Black/African American men (69.4 per 100,000); and
  • For adults and adolescents newly diagnosed with HIV in 2022, the most likely route of transmission reported was male-male sex (57.8%), followed by heterosexual sex (18.7%), then combined male-male sex and injection drug use (3.4%), and injection drug use (3.4%). Note: 16.6% of likely transmission was reported as unknown.

After 42 years, it’s important that the world not develop apathy toward HIV/AIDS. Two whole generations have been born since the first diagnosis, and the steady, continuing rise in cases means people are either getting lazy or are uneducated … or both. If you are living with HIV disease, you need to know how to NOT transmit it. If you are not living with HIV disease, you need to know how to NOT get it. Educate yourself. Educate your partner. Get tested. Be safe.

  • HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) infects cells of the immune system and destroys or impairs their function. Infection results in the progressive deterioration of the immune system, breaking down the body’s ability to fend off infections and diseases. (World Health Organization) HIV disease is communicable, and there is no cure.
  • AIDS (Acquired immune deficiency syndrome) refers to the most advanced stages of HIV infection, defined by the occurrence of any of more than 20 opportunistic infections or related cancers. (World Health Organization)
  • HIV can be transmitted five ways: through unprotected vaginal or anal sex; oral sex with an individual living with HIV; during pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding from mother to baby; sharing needles; or transfusions of contaminated blood.

Protect yourself AND your partner.

  • Practice safe sexual behaviors like using condoms … every time. Let me say this again for the cheap seats: unless or until you are in a committed relationship, AND you do not have a communicable disease, wear condoms every time.
  • Knowledge is power. Know your HIV status … get tested and treated for sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, right away. The sooner, the better, in terms of treatment.
  • Practice harm reduction best practices … use clean or disposable needles.

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Until the cure … 


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NaNoWriMo Kick-Off @ Havoc Brewing Company

Calling All Chatham County/Chapel Hill/Apex Wrimos: Nov. 1 Kick-Off!

Wreak some Havoc with us at Havoc Brewing’s Coffee Bar! All Wrimos welcome at this Day One Write-In, and in fact, the more the merrier. Havoc has a new coffee bar that’s super tasty, and they’ve got great space to sit and write. They don’t serve food, so bring whatever snacks you may need to fuel your creativity, and plan to buy something from the coffee bar if you can (support local, y’all!). If you’re sticking around after the write-in, you can extend your sprint by grabbing a pint and lunch from the daily food truck.  

Find me on NaNo as Becky Moore, where I’m working on my next romantic adventure!


Havoc Brewing Company, 39 West St.Pittsboro, NC 27312 | Get Directions | HavocBrewing.com



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Boosting the Signal: Talk of the Triangle

It should come as no surprise that I’m the Talk of the Triangle. I mean, if we’re being truthful, it’s the celebrated humorist essay and interview I wrote for Midtown Magazine that’s the actual Talk, but share the credit where you can, right? Check out the interview when you’ve got a chance!

Samantha Chase and I talked with Adam Cave and Melissa Wistehuff, along with producer Joe Woolworth at Podcast Cary, about life in the world of romance. Since both me and Samantha have inspiration-worthy husbands, who are often stopped by friends and family to ask if they’re the heroes of our stories, we were the lucky podcast interviewees. Check out the whole shebang today!


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Boosting the Signal: Midtown Magazine’s Love Stories

I’m excited to share my first humorist essay and interview with Midtown Magazine that’s close to my heart: Love Stories – Go on a summer reading adventure with local romance authors. It’s also running in their sister publication, 5 West. I had the pleasure and distinct honor to talk local romance with literary powerhouses Sabrina Jeffries, Reese Ryan, Sawyer Bennett, Samantha Chase, Kianna Alexander, and Kerry Adrienne. Dabny Grinnan of All About Romance also chimed in. And, of course, Becky Moore. Plus, icing on the cake, Peyton Sickles was the photographer! After you read the article, take a moment to buy the latest releases and support this robust community of writers. It’s good for your heart!


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Twenty-Nine

From this engagement photo, where we look like babies, to our 29th anniversary, where we look pretty fucking great at 50, I can honestly say I’ve had a remarkable life. We are happy, healthy, and hopeful. We have the world’s most amazing son and quite possibly the best Jane Russell Terrier. We’ve still got both of our mothers. We still like each other. Life’s pretty good.

We are the sum of three consecutive squares, 2² + 3² + 4². We’re the atomic number of copper. We’re the number of February days in a leap year. We’re 29 times stronger than the day we met, and there’s nobody in the universe I’d rather have at the helm of our life’s adventure. Happy Anniversary to us!


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Boosting the Signal – Chatham Magazine’s Ultimate Summer Issue

So many regional magazines focus on summer camps and vacation for their summer issues, so I was excited to work on two different kinds of articles for Chatham Magazine’s 2023 Ultimate Summer Issue: aging gracefully. In Pass it On, I talked with Norma Boone and Leslie O’Campo about their experience participating with the ‘Voices of Chatham’ oral history project. And in Come Dance With Me, I spoke with dance instructor Lindsey Kling and four of her septuagenarian students dancing their ways to longer, happier lives.


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Daisy Marmalade

My 1.5 year old Jane Russell Terrier, Daisy Marmalade, is 12.5 pounds of pure energy. About a month ago, one of our neighbors had a puppy get lost for a day. My husband was frantic with the thought of Daisy getting out and too distracted to find her way home, because we live out in the country in the middle of BFE. So he started researching technology that would work on Daisy’s behalf should she escape. Two days later, the puppy was back home … and Daisy was low-jacked. LOL.

Until the end of April, Daisy basked in the glory of naked time at home, wearing her collar and government ID strictly when we went into town. She’s chipped, so we didn’t worry. But with news of dognapping on the rise, plus our post-lost dog trauma, Daisy wears her Fi Collar all the time. Unexpected bonus: she loves it. Must be the lack of ID jewelry dangling from her tiny neck.

She’s a shawty jack with tiny arms, and we’ve always taken her on a daily walk. But Fi lets us see how many steps she actually takes in a day. In the month that Daisy’s been tracking her steps, Mr. Sickles has transformed into a Pageant Mom and Daisy has hustled her way into the top 4% of Fi dogs worldwide. Holy shit, right? Go, Daisy, go!


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Boosting the Signal: Chatham Magazine’s 6th Annual Women’s Issue

I had the distinct pleasure of interviewing Tonnika Haynes, second-generation owner of Brown’s Automotive, and Elisabeth Lewis Corley, poet and owner of Harland’s Creek Productions, for Chatham Magazine’s sixth annual Women’s Issue. These women are innovative, intelligent, and paving the way for women in the Piedmont region of North Carolina. Grab a copy if you see it.


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Pi Day on the Fives

This is a big year for my family. Between February 4 and March 29, four of us advance on a five: my mom turned 75, I turned 50, my son turns 25 today, and my mother-in-law will be 80 at the end of the month. And then later in the year, my husband joins the fray with his palindrome of our son (he’ll be 52). My greatest joy and my fondest adventures include this kid, and oh, how very fortunate I am. Happy Birthday to my Sweet Pea. Happy Pi Day to you all.